Paying for Private?

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Around the time of my first scan.

So far during my pregnancy I’ve had a scan at 13 weeks (which I talked about here) and by the time you read this I’ll also have had my 20 week scan. Unless there’s a specific need to, I won’t have another now before baby’s born (that read as though they might give me one after the arrival…you get what I mean!). It doesn’t seem a lot when you think about it but equally, the two scans have their very specific purposes – the first to date your pregnancy and confirm there is indeed a foetus in there or if there’s more than one, the second to look for any issues with the baby’s development. Anything more than that offered on the NHS (unless there’s a problem) would be simply to let mom and dad have another peek at their little one. As lovely as that would be, I can see why it doesn’t happen.

A lot of people seem to be paying for private scans these days. I’m in two minds about this – if you can afford it and you both want to then I can see it’s very reassuring for the mother and can be a great way for dad to start bonding with the baby. In the early days before my first scan I’d convinced myself there wasn’t going to be anything in there so it might have helped a little bit with the worry. But where do you stop? I thought at 12 weeks, which is generally considered the ‘post danger’ time, I would start to feel a little more relaxed about bambino arriving safely and in perfect health. Conversely, I think I’m worrying more in the second trimester.

Perhaps it’s because it’s all getting much more real now? Either way I can feel myself being a little paranoid about things and think if I could book myself in for a scan every week I would do! (It’s the same reason I’ve not bought a Doppler as I think I’d be permanently attached to the thing. Anyway, I’m getting slightly off the point – or maybe I haven’t even got to the point yet. Plenty of people pay for private scans and I’d be the first person pushing for one if we don’t find out what the baby’s gender is at our 20 week. But it can be a huge expense and I wonder how much these private companies are almost cashing in on the fear something might go wrong? Particularly for first time moms who don’t really know what’s normal/not normal to feel.

It would be lovely to see baby on screen all the time but the likelihood is if something was going to go wrong, it would have done by now, or will be picked up at the NHS scan. Of course tragically things do happen after that but would a private scan give a hint if there were to be issues up the road? Or is it simply indulging ourselves in the fact the technology is there now?

I’d be interested to hear people’s thoughts: did you have a private scan? Do you think they’re worth it? What did you get out of them, other than reassurance?

Harriet and bump x

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4 thoughts on “Paying for Private?

  1. I didnt have a 3d scan simply because they wasn’t available , I would definitely have 1 tho , simply because I think it gives you an amazing look at baby’s features that you just don’t get on the NHS p.s I know iv never commented so much to you this is because I’m a little obsessed with baby’s and pregnancy and loving reading your bloggs, its bringing back so many little memories that u forget about because the memory of them arriving overshadow’s those little things so thanks for renewing my memories

  2. Just want to say how much I am loving reading you blog and seeing pictures of bump as you progress. The Blog is a brilliant way to keep extended family members and friends in the loop so to speak which is such a wonderful thing. As to Scans, in my day you only had the one around 12 weeks and the 2nd around 20th week which, I also may add for far from being clear, in fact they were very fuzzy on screen and you did not get one to take home with you like they do now, which I think is awesome! A Private 4D Scan from what I have read and seen on television medical shows, show you what the baby looks like, but even then, it’s nothing compared to seeing them when they are born. Personally, as long as baby is kicking you and moving about, that is all the assurance you need as your pregnancy moves along to know that baby is doing just fine. There is a tremendous joy after giving birth when your new born baby is placed in your arms or on your bare chest for the first time for both you and your hubby to see together exactly what your darlin’ baby looks like together, to count there little fingers and toes and to soak up every tiny little detail of your precious new born baby. You will still hear the babies heart beat when you see your midwife right up until the birth, and this gives you peace of mind that baby is well and happy tucked inside safely until the time is right for them to arrival. My only advice would be to try and relax and enjoy as much as possible ever second of being pregnant for it surely is one of life’s true miracles. Much love xxxx

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