Names I Love But Won’t Be Using

Max showing off his personalised cushion from J&PR. Thanks guys!

I’ve seen lots of people recently talking about names they love but won’t be using for their children, mostly on YouTube. I love the idea and really enjoy thinking about baby names so I thought I’d join in on here! If you have a blog or YouTube channel then please share your list too!

Girls:

Georgina – when I was six months pregnant with Alexandra, we went to Thailand and while we were bobbing around in the pool, we had a theoretical discussion about what we’d call a second baby. We quickly decided we loved Georgina and that it went perfectly with Alexandra, who we’d already named at this point. We loved the nicknames, especially Georgie, although did worry people would hear Alex and George and assume we had boys! When we got pregnant with Max, we knew straightaway that was our girl name.

Imogen – this was one of the names we discussed during the pool times and was probably our choice for the third girl we knew we’d never have. I love the nickname Immy and think it’s a beautiful name.

Zara – I regularly use a baby names board on a popular pregnancy/parenting website, just for fun, and I’ve seen Zara discussed a few times. I absolutely love it but as Dylan has an older daughter called Cara it would have never been on the cards for us.

Avie – Avie is the name that I probably would have called my daughter had I had one at any point in my very early 20s. It was the name of Dolly Parton’s mom and I remember falling in love with it the first time I read it. She was called Avie Lee but I loved the sound of Avie Cavanagh as I’d already chosen my little girl’s middle name at the time. I love it as an alternative to the more popular Ava/Evie type names. However I’m so glad now we didn’t use it for Alexandra as I don’t think it would have suited her.

Quinn – this is a unisex name but I’ve always imagined it on a girl, maybe because I grew up watching the American cartoon series Daria and that’s her sister’s name. I think it’s a really lovely name that works well for a baby and an adult.

Boys:

Oscar – this has always been one of my favourite boy’s names but Dylan doesn’t like it so it was discounted both times. I think it’s really cute and again works for a small boy and an adult. My sister had it  on her list too as we have a fair few joint boy favourites (but differ quite a lot on girl options!)

George – this was a name I put forward as an option when we were pregnant with our second, but again Dylan wasn’t keen. I guess as I love Georgina so much it makes sense but it wasn’t to be!

Noah – just like Avie, this was a name I was a huge fan of when I was a bit younger. Isn’t it weird that had I named my children five years ago on my own without any input from Dylan they would be Noah and Avie, but I actually own an Alexandra and a Max which are pretty different styles.

Ace – even though we’re quite traditional with our name choices, we stumbled upon Ace in the early days of number one pregnancy and it was on our boy list for a while. We ended up deciding our boy would be called Max and then obviously didn’t need the name anyway when he turned out to be a she. I still harbour a love for the name but Alexandra’s initials are ACE so I guess that’s the closest I’m going to get.

Clark – I don’t like all of the American surnamey type names but I do like Clark, and again it was on our boy shortlist the first time round although not the second time as we felt we needed a less modern name to go with his older sister’s. I also love Blake but as it’s the surname of one of my best friends it would have been a little weird!

Harriet, Alexandra and Max x

The Name Game

There are a ridiculous amount of baby name books, never mind baby names.

There are a ridiculous amount of baby name books, never mind baby names.

 Choosing a name for your future offspring, a name that won’t get them bullied, won’t make them sound three years old forever, a name people like. It’s hard, right? I guess it’s one of the biggest (and most permanent) decisions when you’re new in the world of parenting. Most of the other choices – apart from deciding to actually have a baby in the first place – can be reversed somewhat but this is pretty permanent.

A massive problem is there is pretty much no limit to how many names there are in the world. We’re not in the 1800s anymore (no shit) and, as time’s gone by, each new generation has come up with its own variations of existing names and some new completely out there names. Especially living in the celebrity-focused culture we have in 2015, a lot of the time those in the public eye have gone a bit ‘out there’ with their children’s names and therefore some parents-to-be can feel like the task is even more ominous.

Another factor in the choosing game is that (in a lot of cases although obviously not all) two of you have got to decide that you both like a name enough to be forever yelling it up the stairs/across the park. One parent could be the completely traditional type dreaming of Charlotte and George while the other could be thinking of Mercedes and Rylan.

For us, choosing a boy’s name was much easier than a girl’s. Which of course, proved to be entirely unhelpful in our case! We had a middle name for each straightaway but came up with a list of four boys names we both liked. We both went out for the day separately very early on in my pregnancy and came back having decided on a front-runner – luckily they were the same! With a girl I had one name I loved and he had two, neither was won over by the other’s choices. It was only when we went to a charity event and the mayor’s PA suggested a name to us (random, I know!) that following a few days of it ‘growing’ on us, we decided yes that was the one! Now it seems completely natural to call her by that name and I don’t think we’ll change it, although Dylan’s very cautious about sharing it online in case we do (hence the cloak and dagger! Although our friends and family do know).

Luckily we haven’t faced any backlash and everyone has either loved her name or been gracious enough to pretend they do. But you hear so often about poor parents who have their heart set on something and then their loved ones are so rude about it they go off the name! It’s no wonder some choose not to reveal the name until their little one is born – after all, it’s much harder to be ruder about someone’s actual name!

Did you find it easy to pick your children’s names? Did you and your partner agree?

Harriet and bump x