Review: Sea Life Centre

Chilling with her new pal.

Chilling with her new pals.

This week a number of things happened (all of which I’m going to blame for this post being overdue by three days!): it was my birthday, Dylan took the week off and we went to the Sea Life Centre.

It’s fairly close to us in Birmingham so I have been when I was much, much younger but couldn’t really remember much about it (aside from the obvious, like there’d be some fish there!), as a result I was pretty excited to go back and also to see Alexandra’s reaction.

The result was a great day enjoyed by all! It looks quite small from the outside but they’ve made clever use of the space and have managed to pack a lot in. The first thing you get to see are penguins which are one of my favourite animals. Alex sat for ages watching them too.

There were a few school trips there at the same time as us which made it busy at points but once they’d gone past us it was quite quiet being a Monday (although have you ever had to queue behind a whole class of tiny people for the loo? They do not understand the concept of hurrying up!). We said next time we’d maybe look to go in the first week of September as there wouldn’t be any school trips then. I think we’ll wait until Alex is walking to go back as it ended up that one of us was carrying her and the other was pushing the empty pushchair around for most the way – I think had she been a bit smaller she might have stayed in her pushchair but now she just wants to explore everything.

There’s a lovely rock pool where you can put your hands in the water so Alexandra got to touch a starfish which she was quite gentle with (I had horrific visions of her picking it up and hurling it across the room!).

We didn’t watch the 3D film but probably would do next time if Alex is a bit older and likely to sit still with the glasses on. All in all, we were there about two and a half hours which was perfect really. I’d definitely recommend it to any families looking to go (or enthusiastic adults! Dylan’s a diver so he was in his element and I basically had to stop him trying to climb into the tanks with the sharks!)

Harriet and Alexandra x

The Start Of The Recovery

Tiny Alexandra - look how small she was!

Tiny Alexandra – look how small she was!

Click to read parts one and two of this tale if you haven’t already!

I was transferred to Birmingham ITU on Saturday, October 17, and they attempted later that day to bring me out of sedation but were unable to. There was talk of me needing a tracheotomy if they tried a number of times unsuccessfully but luckily the next time they tried on the Monday I woke up. It was a horrendously confusing time for me because I had no idea where I was or what had happened, they kept telling me I was in Birmingham but the last memory at that point was of going into A&E in Telford in mid September. Also the cocktail of drugs they had me on, and the fact I’d been under sedation, meant I was experiencing what they call ‘ITU delirium’ – I honestly believed the nurses were trying to kill me and were selling my drugs to teenage boys smoking in the next room. I told people I could see massive blocks of ice walking around and that the doctors were on rocking horses. It sounds funny now but at the time it was awful being convinced you could see and hear things and no one else being able to, and not trusting the people who were looking after you.

I had to be put back on the ventilator the following day but luckily by the Wednesday I was able to come off it again and I was well enough to be weaned off the oxygen. The amount of treatments I had is ridiculous and I can’t remember them all! But they included five lots of plasma exchange (where they take the bad plasma out and replace it with ‘good’ plasma), I had antibodies put in me and I was also treated with so many medications including one which is apparently known as the medical form of Domestos! I asked one doctor if I had anything left inside me which was mine and he said apart from a few of my own red blood cells, pretty much all everything in my blood was someone else’s.

For the first few nights in ITU I didn’t sleep at all, I think part of it was all the meds including steroids but part of it was psychological – I truly thought if I went to sleep I’d never wake up again. They even tried giving me some medication through a drip to get me to sleep and that didn’t work. Dylan had put pictures of Alexandra up around the room so I just stared at them – I knew I wanted more than anything to get home to the both of them but at the same time I was so scared I wouldn’t make it there.

Although things were on the up after a few days in Birmingham, there were always going to be long-term effects after such a big ordeal. One was my right hand – my limbs had been affected by the clots too (in fact that was when the doctors started to think it was APS not lupus) and although they’d mostly returned back to normal I had lost the feeling in most of my hand and the fingertips and nails were blackened. It’s slowly returning but the doctors have no idea whether I’ll ever get full use of it again, meaning part of my recovery has been about learning to do things a little differently (it took me a few goes to master nappy changing!). There were also concerns about the long-term prognosis for my heart which was pumping at less than half the rate it should be. More on that in the next post.

Because of the amount of muscle mass I’d lost while I’d been under sedation I had daily physiotherapy to try and get some of my strength back – on the Thursday I managed to sit on the side of the bed with two people’s help and the following day I was able to stand up for the first time. On the physio’s suggestion it was organised for Alex to come in on the Friday to see me. I cried so much when they told me it could happen and then spent the next 24 hours scared stiff something would happen to stop her being able to come.

Luckily it didn’t and I finally saw my baby girl again on the Friday, she had come in while I was on the respiratory ward in my local hospital but I had no memory of that so really it felt like the first time I’d seen her in a month. She’d changed so much, got so much bigger and started smiling. It was heaven to finally see her but at the same time so upsetting to know, however short a period of time in our lives, I’d missed out on that bonding time with her. From that day she came in with Dylan for most of the rest of the days I was in hospital, seeing the two of them was always the best thing about my day. Knowing some people don’t even get visitors, the fact my mom was there every morning into the afternoon, Dylan and Alex every afternoon into the evening and others in between too was amazing. My support network has been expansive and so fabulous (a special thank you here to Henrietta and Ben, Beccy and Manda for their support, to the NCT ladies for looking after Dylan and to everyone who babysat Alex so Dylan could come to the hospital when I wasn’t well enough for her to visit. You are all stars).

Join me next time when I get to move out of intensive care and on to a ward!

Harriet and Alexandra x

Going Home…Then Back Into Hospital

My little munchkin!

My little munchkin!

If you haven’t read my last post, this one probably won’t make much sense so why not pop over there and then come back?

Both myself and Alexandra were discharged from hospital and we came home and started to try and settle into some form of family life. However, I was massively struggling with my breathing and it was taking me about ten minutes just to get up the stairs, stopping about three times on the way. I was sleeping sitting up, propped up on loads of pillows, and I just couldn’t do anything without getting massively out of breath. I managed to get out a couple of times but it would completely wear me out and sometimes I was spending most the day in bed. I wasn’t really enjoying being a new mom in the way I should have been because it was so hard for me to do anything with Alex and, although we had some lovely times like the visits from family and friends, it was quite tough. Dylan was struggling too as he was trying to work from home but would end up doing most of the care for Alex day and night, as well as trying to look after me.

After two weeks at home, the day Dylan went back and worked in the office for the first time, my breathing deteriorated further and that evening he called NHS111 who sent two paramedics round who took me into A&E. I spent a few hours in there being assessed and had another x-ray before eventually being transferred to the respiratory ward. The same ward I’d battled not to end up on without my baby, and just two weeks later I was there. Much of my memory of my two weeks on the ward was completely gone, but I’m now getting back bits of it. I can now remember the layout of the ward, what my room looked like and a few of the staff, as well as some of the moments on there. From what I’m told I was really low for some of my time on there and was really struggling with having so many cannulas, blood tests and other procedures – to the point where I was constantly asking why if I was told I needed something else doing and I managed to persuade them to give me tablet forms of the antibiotics I was on for a couple of days until my condition worsened again.

Things just weren’t getting any better, quite the opposite in fact. I ended up being moved to the intensive care ward (ITU) and was sedated and on life support. Some of the doctors were convinced I had lupus but the tests came back negative. Around this time a condition called anti-phospholipid syndrome was mentioned but the feeling was still that I had lupus. Dylan did a lot of research and looked at the symptoms of both, becoming more and more convinced that it was APS. Meanwhile my kidneys had stopped functioning so I was on dialysis, I was having lots of blood transfusions, I had a chest drain in taking away all the fluid and they were seriously concerned about my heart.

A few days after I’d been moved to ITU the diagnosis of APS was confirmed. Essentially it’s an autoimmune condition where the blood becomes too sticky, it’s not hugely common but some people have it and don’t know about it. Women with the condition have a much higher chance of miscarriage or stillbirth but even then it can go undetected. There is also a much more serious variant of the condition known as catastrophic anti-phospholipid syndrome (CAPS) which can be triggered by a number of things including pregnancy and infection. This is what I’d developed and it meant my body was now producing blood clots in my organs. CAPS has a 50 per cent survival rate (although study samples are always very low because it’s so rare) and the hospital I was in had never seen a case of it before. One doctor said the odds were ‘stacked against’ me and others warned because of my multiple organ failure that things were not looking good at all. The only positive at this point was my age, my family were told had I been older I wouldn’t really have had a chance. Also they knew I had some brain function as I had reacted to a couple of things while under sedation, although it wasn’t known how lucid I would be or whether I would even recognise my family and friends.

Because of the rarity of my condition, there are very few experts in it but luckily there were at the Queen Elizabeth in Birmingham, just an hour away. There had been talk of transferring me there for a couple of days but numerous concerns were raised including the possibility that I was too ill to even make the journey. Eventually the QE agreed to accept me on their ITU (the largest in the world!) and I was prepped for the journey. The preparation took about five hours and I had to be paralysed for it.

My next post will be about my recovery in Birmingham, so pop back soon to read it!

Harriet and Alexandra x